Another misplaced rendevouz

You read right! He wantwd to pick me up at 8.30pm CET, I waited, then called his celly, no answer, then his ´rents and they(his mom) told me, that he was again at the hospital for intoxication(you know what) and that I was not culpable, but owe them some explanations. How weird is that, I disn´t even see him. I mail right off from Harry´s Bar a Long Island Icetea at hand, but not drunk!!! Should I skip him or hold him? My world turned upside down. Laters Pilgrim ...maybe I´d do a new poll out of it.*try to smile* ...I feel sad and betrayed!


Sasha (Malchik Gai) said...

You have to do whatever makes you feel right. I'm very sorry you must go through this though. It reminds me of myself sort of. I woke up in the hospital to see my mother and grandfather and two other faces of people that loved me after I overdosed once. Not a fun thing for any of us, but it helped me come to realize I was very ill.
Hugz, I hope at least some of your weekend is good

Pilgrim said...

I´ll szill have Perecost coming, a feast of consolation.

Pilgrim said...

...still, of course

MartininBroda said...

I wish you a blessed Pentecost and hope the „consolator“ will do something for you.

Pilgrim said...

Martin, who do you mean? On the other hand, samr same!

MartininBroda said...

Maybe I have used the wrong word: John16, 7; “But I tell you the truth: It is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Counselor will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you.”
The Counselor is the “Parakletos”, who gives comfort and strength, it’s the Holy Spirit.

Pilgrim said...

I only hope, your councelor is my Allmighty God!

MartininBroda said...

Even if I’m a Lutheran Protestant I guess the Holy Father approves we believe in the same Allmighty God, the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.

naturgesetz said...

I suppose you can be of some help to Sam, but the rehab is what he really needs. Until that happens, any improvement will probably be temporary.

From where I am, so far removed from the situation, I would encourage you to stick with him, IF you think you can stand it. To be good for him may take some effort on your part, because once he's out of rehab he'll probably need a lot of encouragement to stay sober.

Micky said...

You can only do your best to help other people.

If they reject help there's little anyone can do.

It's obviously unfair and very hurtful if his Mum lashed out, but presumably she's as upset as anyone and was looking for a scapegoat, really.

Try not to be hurt by her outburst and maybe she'll come around, at least, and recognise you're both concerned about him.

Baz said...

Not long been back at home, and catching up on blog posts. Just read your last two. It seems from your previous post that you almost expected tonight's meeting to end in disaster, although I don't think you expected what actually happened.

I can see what you mean by "my world turned upside down", but there's a significance in that isn't there? Sam means a lot to you, doesn't he? I doubt that you would have said that otherwise.

No specific advice, but a few questions (not for answering directly), but for you to think about.
"skip or hold"? Only you know the answer to that. Don't bother with a poll, it will probably confuse you even more than your own thoughts. But points to think about:
How much does Sam mean to you?

If you "hold him", can you cope with the pain that is sure to follow. Can you support him? Have you got people that can support YOU through it all?

If you "skip him", how much pain would that cause you? Again, have you got someone to support you?

I don't know those answers, they're within you. I know only what you post on your blog.

"sad and betrayed". I can understand your sadness and feeling of betrayal. But, Sam has a drink problem, I would assume he is alcoholic, and that the betrayal is not deliberate, not a conscious decision. It is a result of a condition that he has no control over.

It wasn't Pentecost when I started this comment, but it is now. Whilst I'm not Catholic (Methodist actually) the significance of Pentecost is universal, certainly within Christianity.
I really hope you will find some consolation this day, and the answers you seek. I will be praying for both you and Sam.

Luv, Baz

R.J. said...

i really do wish that you can help him out and that he gets the right help he needs. try to stay there with him as he probably needs a friend right now. k well pyce love n hugs.


Sasha (Malchik Gai) said...

I don't know if it will help at all, but the memory of it came flooding back from thinking about it. So I posted about it. Having had time to ruminate about it, I agree with many others. If you can be there for him it will most likely be appreciated tremendously by him. Perhaps not so much now as it will be later.
I wish for you JOY

J said...

You need to stop seeing him. Alcoholics are emotional black holes, and your friend will never give up liquor until he hits rock bottom in his life. If you keep holding his hand you will be an enabler, and part of his problem rather than part of its solution.

gomad.ch said...

I think naturgesetz read my mind and put it into the right words.